The key to Tantric sex: breath. Using your breath, you can spread orgasmic energy from your genitals through your entire body. The big “O” is not the goal of Tantra. If you focus on getting to one big bang at the end, you may miss out on tons of other “orgasmic joys” happening in your bodies along the way.
1. Start by turning down the lights and shutting out the rest of the world
2. Loosen your body: Tantra is about moving energy through the body, so expert Louise Van Der Velde suggests ‘shaking your limbs vigorously to energise and unblock your system before you start’.
3.Try the heart breath to tune into each other. Stand opposite one another and look into each other’s eyes placing your left hand on your partner’s heart. He should then place his hand over your left one and you should try to match each other’s breathing for at least two minutes.
4. Sit face-to-face (this works better if you sit in his lap). Wrap your arms as tightly around one another and press your body against each other. This kind of skin contact promotes greater feelings of intimacy.
5. Ensure you move and breathe slowly during sex (it can help to avoid any position that you know makes you orgasm easily) and work towards a gradual build-up of pleasure. The more slowly you can allow your feelings and sensations to build up, the more intense your eventual orgasm will be.